Be Different

Hebrews 12 is a great passage. It is loaded with principles that, if lived out, amount to living a great life before God and others.

Of the many things that could be highlighted from this passage, there is a little statement about halfway through that I’ve been particular fond of for some time:

See that no one is…unholy like Esau, who sold his birthright for a single meal. (Hebrews 12:16)

This verse references a story from the Old Testament found in Genesis 25. It’s only a few verses, so I’ll share them here to catch all of us up on the story.

Once when Jacob (Esau’s brother) was cooking stew, Esau came in from the field, and he was exhausted. And Esau said to Jacob, “Let me eat some of that red stew, for I am exhausted!” Jacob said, “Sell me your birthright now.” Esau said, “I am about to die; of what use is a birthright to me?” Jacob said, “Swear to me now.” So he swore to him and sold his birthright to Jacob. Then Jacob gave Esau bread and lentil stew, and he ate and drank an rose and went his way. Thus Esau despised his birthright. (Genesis 25:29-34)

In Jewish culture back in those days, the firstborn son held a prominent place in the family and received a greater inheritance than any of the other siblings. This was Esau’s lot in life. This was his identity and destiny. He was to carry on the family name and receive not only his father’s blessing, but the greatest portion of the family inheritance.

This identity is what he traded away for a bowl of soup. He scorned his future inheritance for immediate gratification. He traded his destiny to satisfy a compulsive desire.

It’s been a while, but as parents, we hear this type of statement from time to time. When the kids want a snack and dinner isn’t quite ready… “But I’ll die if I don’t eat right now.” The same type of response occasionally surfaces when it’s time to do chores or homework.

Unfortunately, many of us never learn to deny our impulses. The world exhibits the consequences every day. Adulterous affairs resulting from a desire to “just do it” without any thought or restraint resulting in the trading away of family and character, often at incredible financial, relational, and personal cost. There are countless financial and physical manifestations as well from embezzlement to obesity – still resulting from the same inability to resist a momentary compulsion.

Unfortunately, this is “normal.” It’s how people behave. It’s everywhere in our culture from advertising to the compulsive commentary so infamous on social media. But in the face of this normalcy, the author of Hebrews calls us to be different.

We’re called to be set apart. We’re called to remember our identity and destiny as human beings created in God’s image. We’re called to deny destructive impulses because we’re a people created to reflect God’s goodness and character in everything we do. We’re invited to remember that we were created by God to share in his governance of all creation. We’re invited to remember that we’ll ultimate give an account for the way we live and what we do with our lives.

We were created for much more than normal. Never forget that. Never forget the story that we’re a part of. God created this whole thing. He created us to have a role in it – to reflect him, to take care of things, and to be a blessing in everything we do. This is our identity. Let’s learn to live accordingly.



Become You

Become who you were born to be.

This is one of my favorite lines. It’s from Return of the King (LOTR) when Elrond brings Aragorn (the rightful king) his sword before a pending, epic battle for Middle Earth. As Elrond stands before Aragorn, it’s at a time when all seems lost. It would be much easier to run and hide. It would be easier to ignore the surrounding circumstances and to opt for small dreams and selfish pursuits.


It reminds of an alternative quip that is somewhat popular today – “Be you.” It sounds so cute and encouraging. Don’t get me wrong, I love individuality and the courage to be different. But we should be wary when this sentiment is used to encourage rash or compulsive behavior. Like when you want to default on your responsibilities, don’t worry about it. Be you. Can’t afford something, but really want it anyway? Go for it! Be you. Want that experience, but worried about the consequences or feeling some angst? Just be you.

The issue at stake is the “you” in reference in any given situation. The challenge in the world today is that we’re often not very patient or self-controlled. (See: Fast food, credit card debt, social media commentary, etc…) And the “you” that  most of us really want to be, at least in our best moments, is not readily within our grasp. It requires a process of becoming. It requires years of discipline and perseverance. It requires making the hard decisions over and over again.

Think about your life like a map.

  1. Where do you want to go? Who do you want to become?
  2. Where are you today? What kind of person are you right now?
  3. What’s the path from here to there? What will it take? What price are you willing to pay? What steps will get you from here to there?

With this in mind, by all means, be you. Become you. The journey may be long and it may be challenging at times along the way. But it will be worth it. Every hard decision will be worth it. The patience and perseverance you learn along the way will be worth it. So go. Become who you were born to be.

Fruitful Living

In Matthew 13, Jesus tells a parable that is one of my favorites. I’ll paraphrase the main ideas here, but you should really take a minute to read it and mull it over. In the parable, a farmer is planting a field. As he is casting seeds, Jesus describes various fates as an allusion to how people respond to hearing about the good news of God’s kingdom. Some seeds are trampled or eaten. Others take root in shallow, rocky, or weedy soil and fail to produce a crop. Finally, some seeds fall into good soil and have a return of 30, 60, or 100 fold. And in the end, the only thing that really seems to matter is whether or not the seed bears its intended fruit.

As the people are left scratching their heads, Jesus explains the parable to his disciples. First, people are fruitful because they don’t really understand what’s going on. Second, people aren’t rooted enough to sustain growth over the time and to the degree that is necessary. Finally, the cares of the world choke out God’s word and prevent fruitfulness.


Character and Support.

Holy. (Set apart.)

I’d like to share a few thoughts on this parable from the perspective of a dad and a person who really loves to see God working in people’s lives. The truth is, if we’re going to become the men and women that God created us to be, we’re going to have to understand a few things about Jesus, about God’s kingdom, about how this whole thing comes together, and about what it all means for us. We’re also going to need to become a rooted people – we’re going to need to embrace the lifelong, tedious, painful, and extraordinary process of character formation as well the fellowship of others who can support, encourage, and strengthen us along the way. Finally, we’re going to have to be a different, holy people set apart from the world in our priorities, concerns, attitudes, habits, and behavior.

Because God is good and because he created us with unfathomable potential, we can expect that he’ll be working in us toward these ends as he shapes us throughout our lives into sons and daughters that are ready to inherit his kingdom and his reign over all creation. Our part is to submit to God’s work in us and to cooperate with him. In other words, invest yourself in understanding more about what God is up to in the Bible. Understand what was taking place in the big picture with Jesus’ life and death and resurrection. Embrace character formation and tweak your lifestyle to cooperate with God and to continue growing. Embrace fellowship with people who will catalyze God’s work in you. And finally, learn to be a different kind of person than the rest of the world despite the pain and the cost along the way.

These are the big ideas of Matthew 13 that I’ve been contemplating over the past several days. In Part 2, I’ll unpack them a bit more from the perspective of a dad (and friend and pastor) and offer some thoughts as to a way forward in response.


The Blessed

I read the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7) again this morning while enjoying the peacefulness of a good cup of coffee, a quiet house, and a beautiful view of the mountains on a crisp, clear morning. For many years, this passage felt like a heavy list of commandments that didn’t fit too well in what I thought the New Testament (and Christianity) should be all about. But as the years have passed, my appreciation for these words and the picture of life that they paint has continued growing.

I suppose I’m not really a young man anymore. I’m less interested in conquering the world than I used to be, but I want more than ever before to love my wife and boys well. And I want to be faithful to God more than ever, though I’m still having to discover exactly what that looks like in every day life.

Seeing the crowds, he went up on the mountain, and when he sat down, his disciples came to him (Matthew 5:1)

I love the way this passage opens, because I know I’m somewhere out in that audience. In the midst of things, Jesus looked up. He saw a mass of people wandering around behind him. He saw people who were searching and curious and broken and desperate. He saw the eager and ambitious. He saw the skeptical and the hardened. He saw lots and lots of people doing the best they knew to do who were working very hard to get by and to provide a good life for their loved ones. He saw people trying to figure out exactly who Jesus was and what that meant for them.

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.

Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.

Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons (and daughters) of God.

Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven…

I love these words because they are so hopeful in the stride of normal life. From the typical perspective, no one wants to be poor in spirit – downtrodden, worn out, beaten down. Normally, the meek are overlooked and cast aside. Normally, the merciful are taken advantage of and the peacemakers scorned. Normally, the loud and powerful and wealthy and ambitious get ahead by exerting their considerable influence and by their willingness to do what is needed.

But Jesus saw things a different way. And while the world is still busy scrambling to get the proverbial piece of the the pie, Jesus’ words remind us that there is a bigger story unfolding in which we’ll all one day take our places.

God created this whole thing. The heavens. The earth. Everything. In his mysterious, beautiful love and wisdom, he decided to give humanity a significant role in the story. And when it all wraps up and transitions into the next phase of things, everything will be restored under God’s reign. All of Creation will be his “kingdom” once again and it will reflect his original intentions. He’ll sort things out with a wisdom that, as far as I can tell, is far beyond anything we can grasp here and now.

So in the meantime, as most of us live extraordinarily ordinary lives, we can rest in Jesus’ words. The downtrodden and mourning, the meek and merciful, the pure-hearted peacemakers, and all those who have been overrun in their humble efforts to follow Jesus will not be discounted or overlooked in the end.

So let us all be faithful with what God has given us while not worrying too much about what he has not. Love those well God has put in your life. Thoughtfully consider how you can use the time, energy, and resources God has given you to be a blessing to others and to reflect God’s likeness and to make God known wherever you are.